Who has more to lose, and why does it matter?

The person with more to lose is probably the one who’s also ahead of the game.

A dear friend who’s worked hard and has a nice car told me about a daily commuting gripe.  Every day he enters the appropriate lane at a certain intersection that he intends to cross.  Cars line up beside him in a lane designated for a left turn, but with intentions of going across. As irritating as this is, my sage friend acquiesces.

At the cost of some affordable forbearance, he gets where he’s going and goes on enjoying his beautiful, well-kept car.  Meanwhile, the other displays the tell-tale wear and tear from lesser judgment.

My friend’s momentary score-check lets him consider who has more to lose if asserting his right doesn’t go his way.  In this case, he does.  Intelligently, he recognizes that he’s also already ahead of the game.

When making decisions, know where you stand because you may find you’re already where you want to be.

About Maria Hanna Joseph

Maria Hanna Joseph is Principal of Joseph Mediation. Her 25 years of experience in employment law, include 16+ of work and mediating for the Massachusetts Commission Against Discrimination which through which she has gained valuable insight into the MCAD, its practices and decision making. This, as well as her experience in plaintiff and defense litigation, with private and public sector clients, international and local business concerns, and in issues from harassment and discrimination, to noncompetition agreements, business operation, transgender workplace matters, retaliation and many others, lend her valuable perspective for understanding and mediating an array of legal and personal issues. In terms of volume, Maria has served more than 2,000 cases. Maria's practice has been honed with study of mediation at Harvard Law School's Program of Instruction for Lawyers, negotiation at Harvard Law School's Program on Negotiation, and in the disciplines of Transformative Mediation and Family/Domestic Mediation, which are significant assets in managing the personal nature of employment disputes, and conflict in general. Attorneys and parties know Maria as candid, pragmatic and persevering in her commitment to help them achieve meaningful settlements while keeping sight of their most important interests. The insight and creativity afforded by her experience and training are realized in the resolutions that manifest. These qualities, along with her demeanor and the trust she engenders, have earned Maria a reputation for being able to manage highly tense and fraught situations and individuals, and settle a wide variety of disputes and tough cases.
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