Exacerbated, broken down lines of communication, betrayals, infuriating situations… Getting a judge involved might feel like the best or only way to bring things to an end. But what if it’s not? And what if, more likely than not, it’s not?
Given the toll, I say:
You owe it to yourself — to your family and friends, even — to test your own mettle.
I say this because, over and over, I see the amazing ability people have to fix a problem themselves; without realizing they could; despite doubts and prior failed attempts. I see them reach outcomes that are often better, faster, cheaper, more constructive and more sustainable than what someone else might (be able to) do for them.
The key is knowing you don’t have to do it by yourself. You might not even be able to. Avail yourself of the help that’s out there. Bring in a mediator and employ a tried and true, one-step-at-a-time process (mediation). You’ll find what many others have discovered:
You’re more capable than you think.